The conflict reasons inside you

The primary conflict that rises in the heart of every teenager and causes many outer conflicts is identity and social role confusion. In this age you begin understanding yourself as a person and you try to learn who you are and what your role in the society is. Who would you like to be? What will be your future profession? Who you would like to date? What to wear and how to conduct? All these issues are addressed to your identity. But at the same time there are many people who are sure that they are more mature and they have the right to tell you what to do. You think that you are an individual, but the world and social opinion dictates you who you are.

Of course, in such conditions it is hard to define yourself as a person, but it is worthy trying as many people before you and many people after you used to experience the same.

Actually, the fact that the teenagers are used to belong to the different groups (Goths, rockers, rappers, mentalists, punks and others) let you feel as a part of the definite culture which accepts you as an individual and gives you place in it. As you grow up, the groups replace each other.

Some teens behave in a very aggressive way as though they are opposite to the society. But your identity process is not the reason to be in conflict with the world around you and, especially, with yourself. You are not bad, you are not perfect. You are just you.