Parents' divorce

When your parents tell you that they are going to split off, it must be one of the most unpleasant events in your life. Since this moment, there is not "mother, father and I". There are "mother", "father" and "I" between them. How to cope with that and do not fall into the conflict with your parents and yourself?

Now you should understand that your life is to change. Usually the parents blame or ignore each other, especially if they do not respect each other any more. They are the adult people and they should understand that you are not to suffer from their personal conflicts. You have the right to choose whom you would like to live with after the divorce and keep in touch with another parent without any offence from the both sides. Of course, this event is very stressful to you. You could feel desperate, sad, guilty, irritated, unlucky, but it is not the reason to cut off your life. You should continue your usual lifestyle, but at the same time you are to be ready to divide your time into two parts – for your father and your mother. Some people say that divorce of their parents made them stronger. They learned to be good listeners and supporters.

Sometimes the split occurs for the harder problems – abuse, alcohol, drugs, or unfaithfulness. Be sure that you can support that parent who becomes the cause of the divorce. It is your right to keep in touch with him/her or not. Everything depends on your personal position towards your parents and your attitude to them.

Anyway, it is not you who is responsible for your parents' decision.